Do You Feel Unworthy? Time to Change!

Do you ever have the feeling that you just don’t measure up? I can tell you that you are not alone.

Some of us feel unworthy when we measure ourselves against others or unrealistic expectations, either of our own or those of other people. Others feel unworthy because they have become totally overwhelmed by emotions. In this case, it’s usually feeling unworthy of someone’s love because we just don’t feel good enough to be the object of their affections. We’re not worth it.

Irrespective  of the negative emotions that fuel your feeling of unworthiness, holding onto it is counterproductive. It can’t change anything. What it does do, though, because there is a knock-on effect, is to create an effect, a negative one, on your mind and body.

When you fall into the trap of believing that you’re unworthy, you think less of yourself. When you fail to take action, you internalize the negativity, and the consequences of doing that can be both physical and psychological.

Think about how we all experience unworthiness at one time or another. While it needs to change, it’s important to understand that that it’s not only that feeling that should concern you, rather it’s your inability to cope with those feelings of unworthiness when they occur. Not one of us is perfect, but it’s normal to feel inadequate when we measure ourselves against others.

How can you get past that feeling of unworthiness?

Acknowledge Your Emotions

You have to recognize and name the emotions that you experience which are causing your feelings of unworthiness. The emotions may be crippling, but it’s important to acknowledge them. That doesn’t mean that you’re giving in, not at all. It means that you are processing it in order to move beyond it. You’re breaking the hold it has over you.

Make a Plan

You should make a plan so you know exactly what steps you will take in order to deal with negative emotions and fear. Granted, it may feel awkward to think about it, but it’s a proactive measure.

Seek Support

Another excellent proactive approach is to enlist the support of your friends. Speak to them about what you’re capable of and soak up the compliments that are bound to follow. In addition to your plan of action, you should have a contingency plan. You need to know your resources, understand the task ahead and be ready to draw on your support network.

Self-Appreciation

You have strengths. You have talents. When you feel unworthiness creeping in, remind yourself of all those strengths and talents. Practice a bit of self-appreciation in those moments and really remind yourself of what makes you amazing. This will go a long way toward helping you rebuild your self-worth.

Your Solemn Vow

You need to vow that you will always try your hardest and do your best in anything and everything you do. Rather than wallowing in feelings of unworthiness, show your worth by putting your all into everything you do. This is one of the most amazing ways to chip away at the negative feelings that the idea of unworthiness has caused.

No Comparisons

If you feel unworthy it’s because you have created a measure of worthiness that you don’t feel like you live up to. So, how did you create that measure? Probably by looking at others, whether you did it consciously or not. Unworthy is a feeling of being worthless. Worth less than who or what exactly?

That’s a question you need to ask yourself because it’s where the root of that feeling lies. In reality, there will probably always be someone that is better than you at something. So what? That doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. You deserve love and happiness; we all do.